As a mediator its critical that I impartial and non-judgement. But, since I am not going to be called in to mediate between Chris Rock and Will Smith, I wanted to put my reactions to that Oscar episode on paper. WTF was Will Smith thinking? Didn't he ever hear about sticks and stones?
There are two sides to every story. But, in this instance, Smith is the clear villain. Here's why:
1. Smith opened the door for the haters and racists who now have "proof" that ALL black men are animals.
2. Extreme stress is not good for anyone, especially someone with alopecia.
3. If Jada wanted to avoid drawing attention to her shaved head she could have worn a wig. We all know that a woman with a shaved head will attract attention.
4. Have you seen GI Jane? OMG, the woman is hot!! Most women would be flattered to be compared to Demi Moore as GI Jane.
5. If Smith really respects his wife he would trust her to defend herself by making her case to Rock and the public at a more appropriate time.
6. Chris Rock is a comedian. He was making a joke, that's what comedians do. Will Smith is an actor. Actors know how to disguise their internal states. Couldn't Smith hide his rage (even temporarily) and ACT like a civilized adult?
7. Initially, Smith laughed at the joke. And, he smirks as he turns and walks away after the assault. What is that about?
My 32 years in the conflict business tells me there is more to this story. While we await the truth-telling I am hoping there are serious consequences for Smith. Otherwise, we (as a society) condone the use of physical violence and aggression and we invite more. I personally will boycott Will Smith's movies from this day forward.
