Have you noticed that marriage is on the decline?
- Earning equality between men and women
- A first marriage that ended with a negative divorce experience
- The nasty divorces experienced by parents, friends, family members, and acquaintances
- A decline in religious objections to co-habitation
- Cultural acceptance of living together as a first step towards marriage
- Concerns about inheritance for children from a prior marriage
Here is what you need to know:
The biggest benefit to creating a co-habitation agreement may be that by engaging in the discussion that is used to create their agreement, a couple is provided with an opportunity to clarify their unspoken expectations. And, it is frequently these unspoken expectations that lead to the disappointments that destroy a couple’s bond. A mediator can help a couple hold this conversation and create their agreement.
Some may say that the process is unromantic. However, what is more romantic than wanting to save future heartache for your beloved (and yourself) while giving your relationship every possible advantage? If your new partner is unwilling to engage in this discussion and create an agreement while you are within the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship you might want to consider what it might be like to negotiate with him/her when the additional pressures of relationship failure are leaving you both feeling depleted.